Friday, December 16, 2011

What is wrong with me? I don't know what to do...Should I go?

I have a dilemma and I am starting to doubt my sanity. I was dating a guy(We'll call him Bob) my age (26). He has 3 kids. He also had major anxiety and jealousy issues. I had fallen in love with him anyhow, and we continued to date for a little over 1 yr. Things started to get a little rocky towards the end of our relationship and I met a great guy(We'll call him George, 25) from work in the meantime. I talked to George on the phone a few times and really started to like him. From that point on everything happened in a whirlwind. Bob and I broke up and he moved out of my apartment. George and I started long distance dating (he lives 600 miles away, he's an outside salesman from my work). George was great, he would come and see me on weekends, we have planned a trip to Mexico (which he is paying for) in Feb and he wants me to move to where he lives. He is willing to help me finish my college degree, let me use his dodge nitro, and is very attentive and lovey dovey. Here comes the problem~We have been spending more time together lately and he is starting to freak me out a bit. I didn't think there would ever be a time that I wanted to say STOP IT YOU'RE BEING TOO NICE! But it's just too much, always wanting to kiss me and be touchy feely and I am feeling completely smothered. I told him yesterday that I needed more time before I could move. We have only been together 4months and he got very upset, in fact he acted like a small child that had his toy taken away. He actually pouted. I wasn't breaking up with him just needing more time. Then to top it all off I started thinking about Bob, and I miss him, even though he was dysfunctional, slightly inattentive and came with baggage. I called up Bob last night, just to talk, and our conversation went very well. He has not started dating anyone, at least not a serious relationship, and he told me that he has been working on his personal issues a lot lately. Out of all of my relationships I have to say that I felt the most comfortable with him, but I can also say that the arguments we got into were the worst. He asked me to stop over tonight after work to talk and watch a movie. He has his kids, but they are in bed by 8, so I would go afterwards. I don't know what to do! I want to, but I don't know what to do about George. The last few weeks that we have hung out everything has just felt wrong. I feel like I am being fake. What do I do? Do I wait a few months and choose the financially saavy relationship that doesn't feel quite right(maybe it'll change in a few months) Do I go to Bob's tonight just to hang out? I would really like some insight on this. Please don't judge, just advice. Thanks!

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